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Enjoy Each Day

I know I had told you that my sister, Horse Whisperer, and myself would be going out last night but that did not happen.  My sister had been sick this past week and couldn’t go.

This morning I woke up and was going to get ready to go to the aquarium with my parents, little brother and nephew.  I checked my personal Facebook and saw that the Preacher had posted a note about HW.  Her brother was killed in a car accident last night.  My heart goes out to HW and her family because I can’t imagine how they must be feeling now.  It’s a terrible thing to lose anyone close to you, even worse when it’s family.

I would like to ask those of you who do pray to please pray for HW and her family.  I will be going up to my sister’s to help out with the kids and anything else they need me to do this week.  HW has been my sister’s close friend for many years now and I consider her to be my friend also.

“And in the end, it’s not the years in your life that count.  It’s the life in your years.”  Abraham Lincoln

Enjoy each day like it’s your last.

Forgiveness: What it means to me.

I’ve always been pretty good at being able to forgive people when they have hurt me, well, eventually.  My Christian upbringing probably has something to do with that.  My mother, one of the sweetest most loving and sincere women that I know, has always had a wonderful ability to forgive and not hold grudges, even at times when most would think it impossible to forgive or even reasonable not to forgive.  She’s been the shining example in my life of how to live a grudge-free and hate-free life.  She taught me that hating someone and not forgiving people when they do things that hurt you is not the way to gain peace and harmony in life.  Because in the end, I’m the one that will be judged by God and I really don’t want to go to that last meeting with hatred and bitterness in my heart.  In the past few years I seemed to have forgotten some of those values that she taught me and have held things inside that have eaten me up so bad that it has made me depressed and physically ill.  I don’t want to live like that anymore.  I want to be free from all that negativity and be able to let my little light shine.

Merriam-Webster defines forgiveness as “the act of forgiving” and forgiving is defined as “allowing room for error or weakness.”  My tagline on my blog is “Nobody’s perfect.  Why should I be any different.”  Without even realizing it I think I was making a proclamation that I wanted to start forgiving myself of things that I’ve done and forgiving those that have hurt me.  It’s funny how it can take a long time to realize the true meaning behind thoughts that I have and things that I’ve written.

Recently I had a moment of clarity that made my heart jump for joy.  I realized that I had forgiven someone who had hurt me very badly, and through that forgiveness, beyond the pain and hurt, I had grown stronger and smarter.  Forgiving the person was what really made me feel lighter and better.  I’ve read that “Forgiveness can even lead to feelings of understanding, empathy and compassion for the one who hurt you.”  That’s so true and very important.  Once I had forgiven the person, and after they reached out to me, I saw that I wasn’t as perfect as I thought I was.  Even though I had been lied to and deceived, I shouldn’t have been so quick to judge.  I make mistakes like everyone else.  You never know what people are really going through.  I know that when people ask me how I am I usually say “fine” only because if I told them how I’m really doing it would just be too hard to explain why.

As I mentioned above, holding feelings of hatred and bitterness in your heart can cause stress related problems such as anxiety, insomnia, loss of appetite, depression, headaches, and ulcers.  It’s strange how our bodies physically react to stress and emotional pain.  I’m not ashamed to admit that I’ve had some of these physical problems and I know they are definitely stress related.  In the past I’ve even contemplated suicide.  It’s still sort of a taboo subject, but it needs to be discussed.  Having such thoughts is not as uncommon as we like to think.  Even the best of us get depressed sometimes.  I once had a conversation with my grandmother about having thoughts of suicide and being the wonderful Christian woman that she was she did not judge me.  She actually opened up and told me that she too had those thoughts in the past.  The important thing to remember is that there is always someone who loves you and who would miss you, and that suicide is a very selfish act.  That’s what always stopped me.  I would start thinking about my family and how much it would hurt them if I did something like that.

Forgiveness is a beautiful thing.  It can heal you and make you a better, more understanding, and loving person.  Forgiveness is for you, not for those that have hurt you.  Another benefit of forgiving someone is that once you do forgive them, you won’t even have to say anything, it will show in your attitude and actions.  They will see that change in you and often their own attitudes and actions will change.  So let your little light shine and be a good example for others to follow.  🙂

Po-Po hoe!

Madea: [about how sweet T.T. is] What’re you in here for, stealing flowers? What’d you do, steal candy from the girl scouts?
T.T.: I murdered 18 men.

That’s how I felt the night of my DWI arrest.  The lovely ladies that were in lock-up with me that night couldn’t believe that I, the Preacher’s Daughter, was there after 36 years of never having any kind of involvement with the law.  (Unless you count the time that I had sex with a NYC detective, but that’s another story.)  Anyway, for that matter, I couldn’t believe it either.

Today was just lovely. On my way out-of-town I turned to get onto the interstate and quickly noticed three State Troopers parked on the side of the on-ramp.  They were letting people go through, except for me of course.  I got signaled to pull over to the side.

Now, if I hadn’t of had my troubles with the county sheriff’s department last August and my subsequent DWI arrest I may not have thought twice about being pulled over, but since that was not the case, I was scared shitless.

First of all I still don’t have my actual physical license.  The suspension is off, but I haven’t paid the $300 in fines to get the physical license back yet.  The lady at the DMV told me it would be ok since I paid to get the suspension off.  She was WRONG!  Never trust a woman who works at the DMV and who has fairy figurines all over her cubicle.

Secondly, my inspection sticker expired in August, the time of my arrest.  Once I got out of the county jail and lost my license my car broke down and I just kind of never got around to it.  I was going to go get one today, but didn’t quite make it there.

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Chewin’ Bubble Gum and Kickin’ Ass

“I came here to chew bubble gum and kick ass.  I’m all out of bubble gum.”  Roddy Piper – They Live

I’m ready.  For what?  Who knows, but I’m ready for it.  For some strange reason I get these wild hairs occasionally and decide to do weird shit.  It’s usually musically inspired.  Today, I’m inspired by Pink and the video below.

I’m about to go into the bathroom and cut my hair, which I’ve never done before other than cutting my bangs.  Then I’ll color it.  I’m going with a dark brown.  Sometimes being a redhead just gets boring even if it is natural and a shade of auburn so pretty that hair stylists always think is fake.  It’s time for a change.

I usually do this after a break-up.  I think it gives me a renewed sense of self since I tend to mesh with my partner almost to the point of losing myself sometimes.  I hate that by the way, but it’s just how I am.  I like to please others.  Not that I’m totally submissive.  I do like to take on the role of Mistress O now and then.  That reminds me, where’s my whip?  Never mind, I need a boy toy for that.  (Mental note: add “find boy toy” to 2011 to-do list.)

Either way, I’m going for it!  Time to make a change and go all the way.  This year has already been full of change for me.  I know it hasn’t even been a month yet.  Hush.  If the Preacher’s Daughter is feeling ornery then just step back and watch the train wreck happen.

Why not keep the momentum going?

I got a feeling. Two things you should never say to a woman in bed.

Two things you should never say to a woman in bed.

1.      Never say “I love you” for the first time when you laying in bed with a woman, either during sex or pre- or post-coital.  It just makes it seem less sincere.  Of course I’m a wonderful lover and you either are about to have some damn good sex, or you already did, but come on guys, at least try to make it romantic.  I tend not to believe that a guy is really in love with me when he says that at that particular moment.  And definitely don’t say it right before sex because then it just sounds like you’re trying to get in my pants, and that’s just sad.

My first husband told me that he loved me for the first time while in bed, post-coital.  It was not romantic and I honestly didn’t believe him at the time.

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