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Love & Sex Q&A #94

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Do you feel that your responsibilities to your partner keep you from doing the things you really want to do?  Have you ever used such responsibilities as an excuse for avoiding things you were afraid of?

I really hate some of these questions.  This is one of those.  Dr. Gregory Stock speaks of responsibilities to one’s partner.  I’m trying to wrap my head around that one.  I’m sure I’m making it more difficult to understand than it actually is.  I’m not sure what kind of responsibilities he’s talking about.  I think my selfishness is causing a mental block on this one.

I’m sure that at some point I have done whatever he’s talking about so let’s just say we did and leave it at that.  We all know that I’m not afraid of much, but I do tend to avoid things like confrontations and conflicts.  In the past I have used my family as an excuse to get away from my partner for a while, or vice versa.  Sometimes a girl just needs time away to think and meditate.

That’s all for now folks.  I hope you have a great weekend, and I’m sure I’ll be writing more before it’s over.  I started a post earlier today, but Skaterboi interrupted me with an unplanned trip into the city.  I should have just stayed home.  So hopefully I’ll have that up later tonight.

Happy humping!

Late Night Thoughts

Love & Sex Q&A #92

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Who initiates sex more often, you or your partner?  When one of you feels like having sex, how does he or she let the other know?

When I’m in a relationship where I’m happy and happily horny, I initiate sex just as often, if not more often, than my partner.  When I feel like having sex I usually either just tell my partner that I’m horny, or I make it more than obvious in some other way that I’m in the mood.

Most of my partners that initiated sex usually did the traditional kissing then groping thing to let me know they wanted sex.  Occasionally, a brave soul would just come right out with it and say they wanted to fuck.  Some women might find that rude or offensive, but I find it refreshing.  Being told truthfully what a person wants is a turn on to me.  I don’t like going through all the usual bullshit just to get laid.  Don’t misunderstand.  I love flirting, but that’s not always necessary when it comes to sex.  It helps, but I’ve had sex many times when there was absolutely no flirting involved.

For example, I’m in a bar and I see my target chosen one.  I’m attracted to him and I know he’s attracted to me because he has looked at me too.  Why go through all that trouble of small-talk and flirtatious crap when I could just as easily say, “let’s go fuck.”  I know it’s what we both want, so why drag the whole thing out?  Why not just get right down to the business of getting busy?  Because if I don’t go through all of that crap, I’m labeled a slut.  So what?!  Call me what you may, just stay out of my way.  I’m a SLUT.  Denying that fact is futile.  I am a “woman with the morals of a man,” promiscuous, loose, and a cheater.

Ideally, how would you like your partner to go about initiating sex?

It depends on my mood.  Sometimes I like for men to just come right out with it.  Especially with men that I know are just going to be a booty buddy or one-nighter.  There are other times though, when I like to be romanced and courted.  Sometimes, even I like a little foreplay.  Heaven forbid if Skaterboi ever tried using foreplay to get me going.  The entire planet might explode.

Here is one definite way not to initiate sex with me.

Love & Sex Q&A #91


Love & SexIn selecting a life partner, do you think it is more important to follow your heart or your head?  Would you ever let yourself fall in love with someone who wasn’t at all like the image of the person you would hope to find?

Is it even possible to keep yourself from falling in love with someone?  For argument’s sake we’ll say it is possible.  If I could have kept myself from falling in love with certain people (Manwhore, Bobblehead Nerd, Yankee Cowboy, BSL, X1, X2, etc.) I definitely would have.  None of them were the image of the person that I hoped I’d find.

Do I even know what I’m looking for though?  I’m 36 years old and probably should know.  I know what turns me on, but that is such a wide spectrum of looks and people and characteristics that I seriously doubt any one person could ever fit the bill.

On a man I like dark brown, or preferably black, hair.  Loose curly hair, but not long hair.  I like strong muscular arms and legs, but on an average build guy.  I’m not into the bodybuilder types or the super skinny ones either.  I like a tight ass for slapping and grabbing, and nice looking face with boyish good looks.  For me beautiful eyes and eyelashes are what usually draws my attention fastest.  The eye color isn’t that important, but green, blue, or gray eyes really appeal to me.  I like how those colors go with the black hair. Tattoos are good, just not too many.  Piercings are acceptable, although I prefer only the ears and maybe a Price Albert.  Speaking of penises…He needs to be at least seven inches, but no more than eleven.  The girth of the penis should be about four and a half inches.  I like chest hair, but not too much, and no hair on the back!  I want to be able to pull his chest hair when I cum. 🙂

Love & Sex Q&A #90


Love & SexIf after medical checkups you found you tested negative for exposure to AIDS and your partner tested positive, what would you do?  Assume that the transfusion was probably from a blood transfusion?

Ok, we’re going to change this up a little to make it a more realistic question.  Take out the part about it being from a blood transfusion.  These days it’s much more likely that you could have contracted HIV through unprotected sex.  That being said, and changed, I would assume that my partner had cheated.  Now I know that it can take months or years for people to find out they have HIV, but I’m talking about long-term relationships, not one-month old relationships.  If that were the case then they could have contracted it from someone they were with before me.

After finding out that my partner tested positive and if somehow we got past the cheating part, then I’m not sure what I would do.  Do I take my chances and still have sex, safe sex of course, with my partner?  Do my partner and I just never have sex again?  I don’t think I could live without sex.  It’s one of life’s greatest pleasures and a physical need for me.  Just look at me lately.  I’m a freaking basket case without good sex.  I cut all my hair off for goodness sakes!  I didn’t pull a Brittany and shave it all off, but I did cut about ten inches off.  I came really close, clippers in hand, to just shaving it all off.

I thought last night that I was going to get some good sex, then Skaterboi had to go and ruin it by repeatedly telling me that he wanted to cum in my mouth and then asking if he could.  I kept saying no, over and over again and telling him to just fuck me.  If only deafness were a valid excuse for him, but it’s not and I’m sick of doing everything his way.

Again, I’ve veered from the topic at hand.  These questions are great at getting me to contemplate tough situations, and some situations that I’ve been through already and how they’ve affected me.  I love this little book.