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Music, Love, and Bacon

So I know it’s been a very long time since my last post. I’ve had a rough year and a half. To start with, I left Tennessee and moved back to my home state of Alabama. It was a rushed and sudden move and even though it’s nice being back home close to my family, it’s also been an adjustment. I’m not used to having to deal with them on a daily basis. I do miss the freedom that I had before moving back here. Even though it has been strange at times, overall, I am enjoying it.

I’ve achieved some major goals that I had been working towards for a very long time. I finally got my license straightened out and got a car. At first I was living with a lady from my dad’s church, but she turned out to be a cunt nut. I’ll tell you that story later. So now I’m living in a building that started out as a bar in the 1960’s, and then it was a church. Then it was just used for storage. So it’s a work in progress, but it’s kind of cool. It’s about as close to a NYC loft as I’m going to find here in the woods.

For almost a year and a half I didn’t date anyone. When I first moved here I looked on Plenty of Fish (I know, bad idea). I was very disappointed in what I found. So I just stopped looking. I concentrated on getting my shit together instead.

Once I got my car though, I kind of went crazy. After all, it has been a very long time since I had my own vehicle and was able to go wherever whenever I wanted. So I did. A lot. One of my first trips was back to Mississippi to visit Teacher. Remember him? Yeah, that’s the one.

It seems that we both realized that mistakes were made by each of us. Even though we had kept in loose touch with one another, we never really discussed anything more. Except for the one time when Buck and I went back to Mississippi to get the rest of my stuff out of storage, I hadn’t seen Teacher.

That first trip back to Mississippi was the beginning of May. I just went again for a long weekend and got back home today. I went this weekend because there was a local awards show that his band was playing. For me it was like the prom I never had. We had a limo and everything. I couldn’t have asked for a cooler “prom” date.

I did a little drinking that night, and in the limo on the way back to the hotel I told Teacher I needed bacon. I hadn’t eaten all day, but I didn’t really feel like going into Waffle House right then. I just wanted a bed. So the limo dropped us off and we ended the night bacon-less.

The next morning I woke up and he was gone. I figured he was outside smoking, so I took a shower and then went back to bed. I was still recovering. Then at 9:00 am he came in with a to-go plate full of just bacon. Bacon. That’s just as nice and thoughtful as flowers. That’s just the kind of cool guy he is. Guys, if you want to show a girl you love her, bring her bacon. Unless she’s vegan, then, I don’t know, get a new girlfriend maybe?

I have never stopped loving Teacher. I just need to say that. Even though he dumped me and broke my heart, I always loved him. Even though I married Buck; even though that crashed and burned; even though I knew that with me being a state away, it was definitely over for good. The love never went away.

That first weekend back in May when I went to visit, I realized something. I had been trying to replace Teacher, without any luck. As soon as we hugged that first time, after so long apart, I immediately felt that comfort, love, and a sense of relief. I was finally back where I was meant to be, with the man I was meant to be with. Our lives may have taken a detour or five, and the road was very bumpy, but it ended in the right place.

I’m not saying that I’m going to up and move back to Mississippi right now, but just knowing that we have each other is enough. I don’t know what it will evolve into. I just have a feeling that it will end up where it needs to be. I’ve rushed into enough relationships to know that I probably need to take things slow and not make any rash life decisions. Those tend to not turn out so well for me.

I’m turning 45 in a couple of days. I’ve been writing on this blog for 9 years now. I’ve learned a lot about myself in those 9 years, thanks to this blog. It’s made me stop and think about why I do what I do, and about my own faults and issues. That’s why I started this blog to begin with. I needed an outlet. A way to self-analyze and vent. If in the process it turned out to be the least bit entertaining, then hell yeah. Bonus points.

Also, please forgive me for being a little (a lot) rusty with the writing.

Until next time…

Peace, love, & happiness.

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My Band of Ex’s and O’s

Somehow I just managed to realize that I’ve dated a lot of damn musicians.  Enough to have my own band.  So here’s who would be in my band…

Teacher.  Duh, he teaches music full-time and is a professional musician.  He plays just about every instrument, but he’s amazing on guitar.  And, he sings.

Art.  I’d put Art on keys.  He can play guitar too, but he has more of a piano kind of vibe to him.  He’s a….Cad.  Yep.  That’s the word.

Bluegrass.  Ah, shitty old Bluegrass.  Unfortunately, he’s the only banjo player I’ve dated.  Being from Alabama, it would be a sin for me not to include the banjo in my band.

Rocketman.  I can’t even be mad at Rocketman anymore.  He was a sweet guy.  He just had some major issues.  He was a bass player, like me.  He committed suicide five years ago.

Ok.  So far we have guitar, keys, banjo, and bass.

Last, but not least, is drums.  This is going to have to go to Redbeard.  As far as I can recall, he’s the only drummer I’ve dated.  He’s also a tad crazy.  Today he posted a series of FWB memes on his Facebook feed.  Here they are for your enjoyment:

This bitch be like, “he crazy and needy.”

I didn’t respond in any way.  He’s just not worth it.  I’m sorry for breaking his heart, but he’s not alone in that.  There was a line of heartbroken guys before him, and there will be more after.

Until next time…

Peace, love, & happiness.

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Pirate Play

So it turns out that Redbeard is less this…

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And more this…

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He sent me the following message tonight:

“Hi, sorry for the slow response. Just been doing alot of thinking. It’s time we need to say goodbye. I’m not mad or upset, just wanting more than fwb. I hate to do this via messenger but I don’t even have your number. I really like you but you just don’t want what I want, and that’s ok. Your a cool lady and I hope you find what your looking for. Goodbye, Miss [Ginger].”

Without really thinking it through, I immediately replied:

“Ok. I’m not surprised. I figured you’d dump me before your birthday. Good luck. Bye.”

That was the end of our communications.  Either I’m a damn ice queen now or I really just don’t give a fuck anymore.  It’s kind of nice.  I think I’m finally becoming an ADULT!  Just kidding.  That’s never going to happen.

I’m just not ready for husband #4.  I don’t mind dating someone, but what’s the rush?

I’ve finally got a job that I love, a groovy apartment, a great family, and the internet.  How could I possibly need anything more?  This living single shit is awesome.  I don’t have to wait to get into my own bathroom in the mornings.  I don’t have to rush.  I don’t have to make my bed if I don’t want to, and if I do, it’s because I honestly do want to.  I don’t have share the closet!  That’s a big plus.

I smoke, I drink my sweet tea, and I watch any damn thing I want to watch on television.  Life could always be better, but for right now, this is pretty pretty pretty pretty good.

Until next time…

Peace, love, & happiness.

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It’s all good

As it turns out, my “happily ever after” consists of me living alone and just having a side dick. That’s all I need. Since I kicked my husband out back in September of last year, I’ve been thoroughly enjoying having the apartment to myself. I don’t have to compromise on closet space or how much time I spend in the bathroom in the mornings getting ready for work. The apartment stays clean, and if the bills don’t get paid I have no one to blame but myself. Thankfully, the bills are always paid on time now that I don’t have a man-child to support. So I’m glad that I didn’t get the “happily ever after” that I thought I wanted.

I turned 43 at the beginning of this month. I took a 3-day trip with Redbeard to Gatlinburg, TN and even though it rained off and on the whole time, it was relaxing enough and it got me out of the apartment for a few days. I also learned that more than 12 hours with any one man is just too much for me.

Back in March, I told you about Redbeard and how I didn’t think it was going to work out with him, for a few reasons. Well, after Doc Oc moved away I was left with only Redbeard. Brendan Fraser had already faded away. Brendan texted me a few times, but I never made an effort to see him again. So once things settled down I started hanging out with Redbeard again on a weekly basis. Since I was concerned about him possibly being a mooch and just coming over for the beer and weed, I decided that if I didn’t offer any to him and he still kept coming around then I could make it work.

The sex with Redbeard is excellent. When it comes to that, I really can’t think of anything to complain about. I always get what I need, as does he, and then he goes home. I don’t have to wait around thinking, “Oh, God. Is he ever going to leave?” We sometimes fall asleep after, but then he always wakes up a couple of hours later and then leaves. That leaves me to watch the latest episode of Game of Thrones that was on earlier that evening. Come to think of it, I believe that as long as a man doesn’t throw off my TV-watching schedule, then we’re good and I can live with that. 🙂

One of the ladies at work asked me if I was going to drive 5 hours to go see Doc Oc. I told her no, and she asked, “Well, isn’t he worth it?” Again, I told her no. He’s cute and all, but the sex just wasn’t on the same level as it is with Redbeard. I told her that even though Redbeard isn’t rich or great looking, at least the sex is great and we can have a conversation before. (I’ll admit that he’s actually quite good-looking for a ginger-man. I still don’t prefer ginger men though.) It’s not like I’m trying to marry any of them. I just want to get laid and then send them home.

I also want to tell you about my job and the joys of working at a beauty school, but that will have to wait for another post. There’s just too much to tell.

Until next time…

Peace, love, & happiness.

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Babe, I’m gonna leave you

I promised a follow-up to my last post.  Better late than never, right?

For the past two months I have seen Doc Oc occasionally, usually once a week.  About one month ago he came over one evening and as we were sitting on the couch he said he needed to tell me something. I immediately got nervous, thinking that maybe he had a girlfriend or wife.  No such luck.  He told me that he was moving back to his hometown, which is over four hours away.

My heart sank.  I thought I had finally found a guy in this crappy state that I not only could tolerate, but actually liked.  And now he’s leaving me.

Of course this is the guy who I thought could possibly be a serial killer.  He isn’t, of course.  However, he’s a very quiet person, much like myself, but even more so.  I told my sister that now I know what it’s like to date me, and it’s awful.  And I don’t mean that negatively against him.  I just know that quiet people are difficult nuts to crack.  We hold in so much.  All of our emotions and feelings, hopes and dreams, thoughts and beliefs.  Introverts can be extremely complex people.  Personally, think I do better in relationships with extroverts, even though those are the one’s that usually don’t work out.

Anyway…Oh!  I haven’t even described Doc Oc to you yet.  He’s sexy, in a nerdy hipster subdued kind of way.  Think Robert Downey, Jr. meets young James Spader.  His ass though.  Thank you Jesus for this boy’s ass.  It’s so grab-able.  He’s also intelligent and funny.  It’s just that he doesn’t open up and talk much, which I do wish he had done.

Oh, well.  The good ones always go away.  Or I go away.  Someone always goes away.

My prayer for the day:

“Jesus, just send me Bruno Mars…or Sting…I’d accept Sting also.”

Because I could fuck the hell out of some Bruno, or Sting, right now.

Until next time…”It’s only half past the point of no return.”

Peace, love, & happiness.

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