I am setting a precedent right now on how fights will go in my marriage. Even though we are in an open marriage, we still have rules to follow. One rule is that there is to be no lying or hiding things. If he were to go spend the night with someone and not tell me, or worse yet, lie about where he was, then we would have a huge problem. Transparency is key to an open marriage.
So he actually did what I described above. He lied to my face and he hid being with another person from me. Two rules immediately broken. The last thing he did, once outed, was to not apologize immediately. So I told him to leave the apartment and go stay elsewhere. He asked for how long and I told him I didn’t know. He’s texting me, but I haven’t replied.
He’s just going to have to ride this one out.