Finally, my parents and little brother have gone back home, two states away, where they belong! Mom & little brother were here for almost a month and in that time they just about drove my sister and I over the edge into insanity. Thankfully we survived only slightly more insane than we already were prior to their visit. I do love my mother and little brother, but it’s true that “Guests, like fish, begin to smell after three days.” (Benjamin Franklin) This rings especially true because my little brother seems to have a burping/farting problem.
I understand that it’s difficult for my parents to come back to the house that they built and the town where they lived for so many years, but if it’s so difficult then why come at all? I’ll tell you why. Because even though my sister and I are doing everything within our power to help them keep from losing the house while they try to sell it, including my sister trying herself to get financing so that she can buy it, they just don’t trust us. My father, the Preacher, strategically planned his trip here to pick up my mother and brother, at the first of the month. He used my birthday as an excuse, but that’s not the real reason. He wanted to make sure that all the rent we collected from our tenants went toward the mortgage payment.
Just so you know, I’m OCD when it comes to my spreadsheets and Microsoft Money. I update it daily and try to stay on top of every penny that we earn, spend, and all bills that are due/coming due. My sister may be the business minded one, but I’m the analytical and practical one. Together I think we make a pretty damn good team, although our plans don’t always turn out the way we had hoped. At least we are trying. Meanwhile the Preacher is sitting on his ass not doing a lot to help out, just waiting, expecting, demanding that she and I make the mortgage payments. At one point he was ready to just hand the house over to the bank. That’s what really confuses me. If he doesn’t even care anymore, then why is he riding our asses nonstop about it? Control. It’s all about control I suppose.
I find it difficult to feel sorry for the Preacher, but I do feel for my mom. I know she has tried her best to rein him in and make him see the light, but he seems to be forever stuck in a deep dark cave of self-pity. I just pray that she and my little brother don’t have to suffer through all this much longer. I hope he will get off his ass, get a job, any job or even disability which is what he should be on, and take care of them like he should.
My mother, bless her heart, has good intentions, but she managed to drive us crazy too. Between her waking my sister up at 2 am, 3 am, and 5 am, to let the dogs out, and her getting up at 6 am to make her decaf coffee and start doing dishes, I thought I was going to have to sedate my sister a few times. Mom has always had periods of insomnia, and since she was already awake, she thought that 3 am was the perfect time to vacuum and do other household cleaning. She had no problem going into my sister’s room and vacuuming while sis was trying to sleep. Sis HATED that, and still does.
I have to hand it to my mom though. She’s put up with the preacher for many many moons, raised two very interesting daughters, is now raising a rambunctious six-year-old boy, and always manages to keep a smile on her face and love in her heart. Although not perfect, she is amazing nonetheless.
The funniest thing mom did while she was here was when she found my sister’s bottle of Bahama Mama in the fridge door. The Preacher is a former/recovering alcoholic, and therefore my parents have not had alcohol in their house in at least twenty-five years. So one night she was cooking a roast, and found the bottle in the fridge. She asked if I thought it would be good to put in with the roast, sort of like a marinade I suppose. I laughed and told her it wasn’t wine, and I refused to let her use it. (She has a long history of coming up with some interesting, and not so tasty dinner items.) I guess she didn’t believe me so she opened it up and took a short sniff of it, and then a longer one. Then she said, “That smells really good. I guess if I can’t use it I can at least sniff it.” Then she proceeded to take a very long whiff of it, all the while giggling like a school girl. LOL
I am realizing that I haven’t written much about my mother, and I will have to rectify that very soon. She’s so funny and sweet and her innocence just makes even funnier sometimes. She has brought my sister & I to tears on many occasions laughing at the stuff she says and does. Don’t worry, she laughs at herself too. She is great when she laughs really hard. She turns red, tears come streaming down her face and anyone can see what a beautiful person she really is.
So the welcome mat may be temporarily hidden, but it will be back out eventually and we will welcome them back with open arms. No matter what, they’re our family and we love them.