Help me understand. Please!

I officially hate Valentine’s Day now.  I’m so confused.

First of all this day sucked.  I went to work and had planned all day yesterday & today to go to the store & get the stuff to make a great spaghetti dinner for Art tonight.  When I got to work I found out I had to go sit at city hall for a couple of hours, and then Manwhore sent me a text saying he needed me to go home to let the rental place come and pick up his bed.  So I ended up having no time to go to the grocery store, and had to help the woman load the bed into the van because the idiots sent her alone to get it.  That was fun.

Then I had to clean up the apartment once that was done, get a shower, and get ready for Art to come over.  Since I wasn’t able to cook we went out for Chinese food.  I didn’t care as long as we got to hang out.  We walked around and then came back to my place and watched a movie.

I kept waiting on him to make a move, but he never really did.  This is where my confusion begins.  I’m so not used to guys not groping me and trying to jump my bones all the time that I can’t help but wonder if something is wrong.  Does he not like me?  If not, then why does he keep seeing me?  I’m probably just being paranoid because I’m not used to being with a decent guy, but still…what is he waiting for?  We had sex once already so I don’t understand the sudden slow down.

Arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!  I hate this.  Maybe I should just ask him.  I don’t want to come across as needy or desperate though, even though I am a little at this point.  LOL

I keep telling myself to just breathe and relax.  That it will all be ok.  That he does like me and I’m just being ridiculous.


Oh well.  Happy freaking Valentine’s Day.

Happy humping!

P.S.  Any advice is welcome.  Please!  Help the poor little redheaded preacher’s daughter understand what it means to be in a normal relationship!  Thank you. 😉

5 thoughts on “Help me understand. Please!

  1. Either he’s a gentleman or he’s afraid of getting VD on Valentine’s Day. Kidding about the last part. Its possible that you both were at a standstill because you both were expecting the other person to “jump your bones”, no pressure. He could also be thinking that any action on such a day as this would mean MORE than usual, so he backed off cus he A) doesn’t want that, or B) wants to go slow.

    Happy Cupid Shot Me in the Ass Day!

  2. I hope you’re right. I know for sure that he’s a gentleman. As far as the Valentine’s Day thing…good point. I didn’t even really think of it that way. Maybe today is not the best day to get laid. It could be misconstrued as meaning more than it actually does. Thanks! 🙂

  3. Wandering Mind is right. He’s either is afraid of the whole commitment thing or was waiting for you to make some grand gesture. I’m a very blunt person, so I would ask him what’s up. If it’s a commitment thing, it’s his loss. If it’s something else, he’s just a bit of a doof and that’s easy to deal with. Lol Either way, it’s best to find out sooner than later.

  4. I would offer that us guys can often not be sure of “when is the right time”. We play games in our head, watching for a sign, some miraculous signal that it’s ‘game on’. Often, we are led astray and leaving someone behind if we fail to make that move. Open communication is the key. If you guys struggle with this, then find a signal to let him know without speaking about it, that ‘you are ready for his attention and intentions’ 🙂

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