If your lover kept a private journal that was easily accessible, under what circumstances might you read it without permission? For example, what if your relationship were on the rocks and you were confused about your partner’s feelings?
This question really strikes a nerve for me for many reasons. First of all I have kept journals since I was a kid, but really got into it when I was about 19 years old.
When I was 22 I moved to New York City to live with my first husband, Con Artist, and had a very difficult time adjusting and found journaling to be very therapeutic. I wrote about my problems with him and his mother and her eight cats, yes, eight cats. I’m allergic to animals by the way. She knew that, but she didn’t care. She hated me. Anyway, it got to a point where he started reading my journal without my permission. It pissed me off so I started writing stuff in it directed towards him. I knew he would read it so I figured why not make the most of the situation.
There was another person who read my journal without my permission and that ended in disaster. I think that if a person wants to know something about me then they should just ask.
All of that is probably what led me to this thing we call blogging. This is basically an online version of my journal. Even though I’ve still had a couple of boyfriends who found my blog and read it, I don’t regret writing it. If they happen to find it and read it and if they really love me for who I am they should not be bothered by what I write. If it does bother them, then they shouldn’t be reading it or they shouldn’t continue dating me. It’s that simple.
Now to answer the question about me reading my lover’s journal. I would not go and read someone’s private journal unless I had permission to do so. That would be worse than going through someone’s email or phone. If I’m confused about someone’s feelings then I should feel comfortable enough with them to just ask them about it without having to sneak around behind their back and spy on them.