When was the last time you made love so spontaneously you couldn’t have predicted it 20 minutes before? What attitudes lead you to such surprises and what attitudes prevent them from happening?
The last time was probably the first time that I was with EB. I had no plans of doing anything with him, let alone having sex. Having a carefree, slutty, sex-crazed attitude is probably what leads me to such surprises. I don’t condone having sex on the first date or having one-night stands, but sometimes it does happen. When it happens, hopefully it turns out good.
Having negative attitudes towards sex such as thinking of it as a chore, not fulfilling, or just being afraid of intimacy can hinder the ability to be open to having spontaneous sex. Fear, doubt and self-consciousness can really hinder a person’s ability to just go with the flow and let things happen.