At the beginning of a relationship, do you trust your new partner unless there is something specific to make you do otherwise, or do you withhold your trust until he or she has earned it?
I used to think that I trusted someone until they gave me a reason not to, but I recently discovered that I was wrong. I like to believe that I do that, but the truth is that I don’t. I have recently become more aware of when I am being distrustful of people. I tend to always have that little voice in the back of my head that tells me that the person could be lying to me. Sometimes I wish that voice would shut up, but I suppose it’s there for a reason.
I don’t always listen to that voice at first, especially when I’ve first met someone and they’ve given me no reason to distrust them. The sad fact is that it is always there whispering to me, making me doubt the other person’s integrity and objectives.
I recently had an incident where someone, who I had not known for very long, lied to me about something. It wasn’t anything huge, but still, it was a blatant lie. I hate being lied to so naturally I was very upset about it. He thought that I was overreacting. He also told me that he only lied because he was afraid of how I would react. I told him that I was more upset about him lying to me than I was about what he did. So at this point he definitely has to earn my trust, now that I know that he is capable of so easily lying to me.
The way things are today with technology making it so easy to meet new people we definitely have to be careful. I of all people should know this to be true.
Goodnight & happy humping!