Dropping the L-Bomb

Why do some men feel the urge to say “I love you” so soon?  I’ve always been the type to wait to say those three little words.  I don’t like rushing into things and I want to make sure that what I’m feeling is love and not just lust.  What I don’t understand is why so many men that I’ve dated seem to say “I love you” entirely too soon.  How can they be sure that it’s love?  Do they even realize what they are saying?  Do they really mean it or is it just the lustful passions overwhelming them and clouding their minds?  Are they just trying to get into my pants?  Or am I just continually dating the wrong kinds of men?  Those are all questions that I wish I knew the answers to.

I don’t think that anyone can fall in love after only one or two dates.  Falling in love is supposed to take time, right?  I never really believed in love at first sight either.  Maybe that has something to do with why I don’t understand why men keep telling me that they love me so soon after starting to date them.  There are so many “maybe”s involved that it just confuses me more.

When men say “I love you” to me too soon in a relationship it scares me.  It’s not that I don’t want them to ever say it, I just want them to say it at the right time and in the right way.  I’ve written before that there are two things that you should never say to a woman in bed, “I love you” and “Will you marry me?”  Those two things should be said not only out of bed, but also never over the phone or via text message.  Say it when you’re looking the person in the eyes, and not in a horizontal position.

This is also covered in my list of 10 things that turn me off.  It’s number 9 on the list:  “Men that tell me they love me within the first three months of dating.”  There’s just something about it that doesn’t sit well with me.  I’ve read that it’s acceptable to say “I love you” after the first three months of a relationships.  I found a couple of articles online that give some good information on this subject:

That’s all I have to say for tonight.  I have my second date with EB tomorrow.  I’ll let you know how it goes.  I’ve talked to him a lot more on the phone this week and we’re getting to know each other a lot better.  It’s weird though how when I’m dating someone new, as they tell me things I am constantly having weird thoughts going through my head.  I wonder about things like if he’s being honest, if we’re really compatible, if he’s talking about certain things a lot because he has issues that will hinder our relationship, if we have enough in common to take us beyond the bedroom, or am I just being too analytical?

Good night & happy humping!

12 thoughts on “Dropping the L-Bomb

  1. Scared me for a min girl, i was afraid that EB said the L-word after you long date….glad to hear you and he are still on the up and up…..I also tend to say the l-word too soon, that’s why I waited for my now wife to say it 1st when we were dating. I didn’t want to scare her off, especially after stalking her for so long.

  2. I understand and agree with you. Many men allow their lust to fool them but when it comes to the test, you realize it was not love – just an imposter. Enjoy your weekend!

  3. I tend to say things like, “I knew I liked you.”
    The urge to drop an L-Bomb tends to arise when we either:
    A) Really are head over heels for you
    B) Think that’s what you want to hear
    C) Think it’ll speed up the boot knocking process

    Now C) works on certain types of women.
    B) Is not quite as altruistic or sincere as it should be at times.
    A) Is for those women that are just so fantastic that we’re thinking where have you been all my life.

    Or they’re just control freaks that have already told everyone that they’re gonna marry you and have made plans to introduce to their family who have been waiting with “welcome to the family” signs and tears in their eyes.

    To be quite honest, I drop L-Bombs all the time, and quite casually to since I don’t mean it in the context that I think you’re describing. Great post.

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  5. I have to agree with Mr. T I thought EB already flipped the switch and you kicked him to the curb! It is always good to be honest in a relationship though. If the other person says it and you don’t think you are ready for the “L” word than just tell them straight up. Men are weird though, and sometimes we get their emotions crossed. I wish you luck though. Hopefully you can find someone who is right for you, or someone who does like you for you and would do anything to keep you happy 🙂 Best of luck! and have a Great Saturday.

  6. I would run screaming if someone told me after the second date they loved me…it definitely takes more than and hour to get to know me, and you may not like it all after a while 🙂

  7. I think it’s usually best for the guy to wait on the girl to say it. Men are expected to be less emotional than women, whether that’s the reality or not is a whole other blog. But as a general rule, that’s what society expects, so you don’t want to fire off prematurely.

  8. I’ve never experienced love at first sight, but as I get older I’m thinking that perhaps I’ll feel that way when I meet “the one.” I love this line: “Good night & happy humping!”

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