I have a date! Yes, me. 🙂 So far I’m sticking to my rules too! He contacted me first, so that takes care of rule #5 (If using an online dating service, do not contact men first.) The date is set for Tuesday. That takes care of rule #3 (The first date has to be planned at least two days in advance.) I still have to get his last name (rule #4). As far as rules 1 and 2, well, we will just have to see how well my self-control holds up. He’s very cute, funny and seems like he has some common sense. I’m hoping he doesn’t turn out to be a dud. We’ve talked already so I think he’s going to be cool. Hmm, I think I’m having deja vu. Didn’t I say that about Manwhore, Skaterboi, Bobblehead Nerd, and so many others when I first met them? Oh, well. Gotta take a chance.
I can already tell you that rules 1 and 2 are going to be the most difficult to follow. That’s mainly because he lives about 45 minutes away and that leaves an opening for an excuse for one of us not to drive all the way home if it gets late. I thought about putting a rule about date curfew, but I really don’t think I could follow that one, ever.
I’m thinking I should add a rule about not drinking and driving. If I do that though, then it will be even easier to use the excuse to break rule #2 (No going to the guy’s house on the first date.) So maybe rule #7 should be no drinking at all while on the date.
Today marks the 15th day before I turn 37. As I move closer to 37 my mind wanders. What are the things that I love and hate the most about myself? I’m going to use these last 37 days to find out.
I love being a geek/nerd.
I hate that because I’m a geek/nerd everyone calls me with their computer problems and gives me their computers to fix. I currently have the Preacher’s laptop to fix. It got a bunch of trojans and viruses and other stuff on it. This is the third time he’s had major problems with his computers. Should I tell him that it’s probably because of the porn sites that he’s been visiting? He would probably deny it. I would have to explain what cookies are. That would be a fun conversation. “Hey, Dad, lay off the porn or I’m going to stop fixing your computers!”
So I stole part of that line from a Smallville episode that I saw tonight. It was a great line though and I had never thought of looking at oneself in that way. When you’re in a relationship or looking to be in one, we’re either the moth or the flame. I suppose that technically both people could be both. You could be the moth drawn to the flame (your partner), and you could also be the flame that the moth (your partner) is drawn to. That would actually be the preferred situation. If only one of you is the moth then it’s basically unrequited love or attraction.
I think that has been the problem with many of my relationships. I was never both the moth and the flame at the same time. From now on if I don’t see from the beginning that I’m both, I won’t pursue the relationship any further. I guess that’s going to be rule number seven on my list.
I’m exhausted now so I hope I’m making some sense here. If not, I apologize for rambling.