Archive | June 10, 2011

Love & Sex Q&A #97

Love & Sex97

How much energy do you put into sex and romance when you are first getting to know someone, and how much do you put in after you are involved in a long-term relationship?  Does your enjoyment of sex and romance depend more upon how much energy you devote to it, or upon how long you’ve known someone?

Now this is my kind of question.  When I am first starting out in a relationship I do put a lot of energy into sex and romance because I want to make sure that my partner knows that I enjoy sex and that I believe that it should be fun and not just a chore.  Once I’m in a long-term relationship I probably put even more energy into it because I hate for sex to become boring or tedious.  I like to change things up every now & then to keep it fresh.  I also try not to give away all my secrets right away so that I have some little surprises to give my partner as time goes by.  Things like lingerie and toys and new positions are all great ways to keep sex interesting.  Don’t be afraid to do some research and to try new things.

I believe that my enjoyment of sex and romance depends more upon both the amount of energy devoted to it and how well I know my partner.  The longer I’m with someone, the more I should know about how to turn them on and give them pleasure.  Sex is a learning experience and that is part of the reason I love it so much.

23 days until I turn 37

Today marks the 23rd day before I turn 37.  As I move closer to 37 my mind wanders.  What are the things that I love and hate the most about myself?  I’m going to use these last 37 days to find out.

23.

I love how everyone is scared by the thought of me drinking hard liquor.  Today my sister told me that a friend of hers had a bottle of Jack Daniels that she wasn’t going to drink.  I told her that she should bring the bottle to me.  She said that the last thing we needed was [PD] on Jack Daniels.  I don’t get it.  I’m a happy drunk, maybe a little too happy I guess. 🙂

I hate that when I do get drunk, no matter what I’m drinking, at some point I always want tequila.  Even knowing that tequila will make me sick as a dog the next day, I still crave it.  How’s that song go?  Tequila makes her clothes fall off?  LOL

It’s the weekend y’all!  Have a shot for me & happy humping!

 

The Good, the Bad & the Ugly

My Date Journal & New Rules For Dating

Since I’m officially single again I decided to use this opportunity to write about my dates as I have them.  I don’t really plan on doing any serious looking for men, but if I do go out, and I’m sure I will, I will be sure to tell you all about it. 🙂

Because of my lousy track record when it comes to dating, I have decided that I need to come up with some new ground rules to follow.  Here’s the beginning of the list of rules.  I’m sure I’ll be adding to it as time goes by.

  1. No sex on the first date.  I have had a big problem with this in the past.  I’m sure you’re not surprised by that little confession. 😉  Actually, the only men that I married or had serious relationships with were men that I didn’t sleep with on the first date.
  2. No going to the guy’s house on the first date.  Why?  See #1.  If I want to go to a guy’s house then I probably like him enough to have sex with him, and I can resist anything but temptation.  I don’t want to make it too easy for myself to end up in bed with a guy.
  3. The first date has to be planned at least two days in advance.  This is merely to keep myself from rushing things.  If a guy really wants to meet me then he can at least have enough patience and respect to ask me out a couple of days in advance.  I’ve found that in the past when I have not followed this rule, I have regretted it 9 times out of 10.
  4. Always know a man’s first and last name before going on a date with him.  This may sound silly, but I’ve actually had month-long relationships where I didn’t even know the guy’s last name.  Knowing this kind of information is important, just in case he turns out to be a psycho or stalker and you have to block him from calling you or you have to get a restraining order.
  5. If using an online dating service, do not contact men first.  This is another one that I’m guilty of not following and that hasn’t seemed to work for me.  I think men like the chase too much and if I contact them first it kills part of the fun for them.
  6. If he cheats, it’s over.  This one is sometimes difficult for me for two reasons.  First, because I believe in giving people second chances, and second, because I have been a cheater before.  I’m trying to change my ways though.  I also know that people who cheat ultimately can’t be trusted.  Another thing that I’ve learned is that I have to make sure that the person that I’m dating is on the same page as I am.  If I want to be monogamous, then I have to tell the person and find out if that’s what they also want.

Ok, so there’s my first six rules for dating.  Hopefully I can stick to them and avoid any more Manwhore or Skaterboi-type relationships.  Like I said above, I will definitely be adding more rules as I go along.  It’s difficult to think of everything I should and shouldn’t do now, so it will have to be a work in progress.

Happy humping! (Just not on the 1st date!)