Archive | March 29, 2011

Love & Sex Q&A #83

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Love & SexHave you ever had a lover you wanted to break up with but keep as a friend?  or perhaps as a casual sex partner?

Yes, yes, and yes!  I’ve had many lovers that I wish I were still friends with or could have as a casual sex partner, aka “fuck buddy.”  Not that I don’t have any former lovers that I’m still friends with, there are just others that I’ve unfortunately lost contact with.  And no, I’m not talking about Manwhore.  The sex with him wasn’t that great anyway.  He was funny though, and I love a man who can make me laugh.

As far as f-buddies are concerned, I don’t have any of those right now.  Since I’m doing the monogamy thing now, having a f-buddy is out of the question.  However, if I were to have one, I’ve got a list of men that I would choose from.  Most likely the majority of them would still be up for it.

I recently got a message from one on Facebook that I used to see on a very loose basis a long time ago.  He’s a successful, intelligent, funny, sexy, well-hung man in Atlanta and I’ve always adored him.  Unfortunately he leads a very busy life and I only saw him one more time after I left Atlanta.  He came to NYC for business and I met him at his hotel.  There were no awkward hello’s or conversation.  We were friends and knew what we were both there for, sex.  It was pretty much just us getting down to our own business.  Oh my green jeans!  It was fabulous and very memorable.  Every time with him was special, not like just a plain old booty call.  I wouldn’t mind getting some more of him, but I’m not sure that will ever happen.  Never say never, right?

The question specifies that it’s lovers that you wanted to break up with.  I admit that I’m an awful girlfriend at times and I usually break up with guys for the most miniscule of reasons.  I call it the Seinfeld Syndrome.  There always seems to be something about the person that drives me crazy to the point that I just can’t take it anymore.  I also like to look at it as my subconscious telling me that he’s not “the one.”

Versatile Blogger Award

The Redneck Princess nominated me for the Versatile Blogger award!  She called my blog “Total awesomeness.”  Thanks girl! Right back at ya!

So here’s how it works.  I’m supposed to share 7 random facts about myself.  Here they are.

  1. I love olives.  I have a gigantic jar of them in the fridge.  (Olives help reduce nausea.)  I used to eat so many when I was a kid that my grandmother was always afraid that I would start puking all over her baby blue shag carpet.  I never did.  See they work. 😉
  2. I love pajamas, especially the matching men’s style with button down top and long bottoms.  Very comfy in the winter. 🙂
  3. I hate wearing shoes.  I would wear flip-flops all year long if possible.  Thankfully the heat and humidity here affords me to wear my flip-flops most of the time.
  4. Because I love me some flip-flops I have to keep my nails polished at all times.  I usually paint toes and fingers at least once a week and my nail polish collection is getting out of control.  This week I went with a gradient look.  From dark pink to light pink on my toes, and from light blue to dark gunmetal on my fingers.  Loving it so far.
  5. I secretly love Afroman’s music.
  6. Other than Clark Kent and Oliver McQueen, I would have a threesome with Jay & Silent Bob if that were an actual possibility, but it’s not.  I’ll get over it.  Probably.
  7. I worry about everything.  I try not to, but it’s impossible.

Next I share the award with 7 other blogs and link to the recipients.  And the winners ARE….and as the Redneck Princess said, “if you have already been chosen, I apologize, please don’t do all this work again!!”