Bad Sex Sucks

I think I should have stuck to my original plan of abstaining from sex.  Of course I had to go and screw it all up by moving in with Skaterboi and now sex is expected, even if it’s not even good sex.  Lately, well after the first week that I moved in, the sex has been below average.  This is only one of the reasons that I don’t like living with a significant other.  Everything can be fine and dandy and hot and heavy while dating, but once you move in together, it’s like someone flips the switch and it’s all downhill from there.

Besides feeling an obligation to be monogamous and feeling like I’ve lost my freedom, I begin to feel trapped.  I should back up a bit and explain Skaterboi.  This is a man who for some unknown reason does not believe in marriage and refuses to ever get married.  That is fine with me because I have been married twice and am not looking to get married a third time now.  He is also a man who I met online, though not through a dating website.  Our meeting came from my epic fail at posting on Craig’s List the Friday night before Halloween.

His was one of the first responses that I received.  I didn’t respond to him until the next day though.  We continued to talk via email and finally met on November 19th after Manwhore left to go see his woman up north.  After all of that mess, we continued to see each other and moved in together the middle of last month.  Skaterboi is a really nice guy and I do care for him, but I’ve always had reservations about him because he seems to have an aggressive side to him that I find unnerving.  I told my sister that my moving in here was a temporary solution to a temporary problem.  I’m not even sure what I meant with that one, but it seemed to make sense at the time.  I don’t want to break up with him, I just want some good sex!

Back to my original point.  Lately the sex has not been good.  He has this thing where he likes to lay on his side and take me from behind.  I do not care for this position for a few reasons.  First because it’s really only good for guys with really long dicks (he’s pleasantly average-sized in length and a little above average in width).  It just feels like he’s poking me with the head and not really penetrating me like I need him to.  Second because he tries to sneak in the back door, by “accident” of course.  I do not approve.  Third because I prefer to actually look at the person when sex first starts.  Doggy is fine for the second course, but first course should either be missionary or me on top.  Lastly, I do not like it when someone tries to fuck me without any foreplay.  A girl needs to get ready, lubed, something.  Boys, you can’t just go in their dry.  That hurts like a mother.

So far the only way I can get off is if I’m on top of him, and with my bad knee, I can’t do that for too long at a time.  The whole situation sucks.

Another thing that bothers me about him is that he does the dreaded “push my head down to his crotch” thing and I’m tired of it.  He really likes to try it in the morning when I’m half asleep and can barely talk.  I am not a morning person until I’ve had my coffee and cigarettes.  I do like morning sex, but only if it’s done the right way.  Wake me up sweetly, maybe with a hard cock pressed against my ass, kiss me.  Make it something nice to wake up to, not a pain in the ass chore that I’m not in the mood for.

And one more thing.  It started out with him just having me jerk him off either before bed or in the morning.  I assumed this would lead to intercourse.  I was wrong.  He actually came on me!  WTF?  If you’re going to cum, then at least make sure I cum too!  Don’t just roll over and go to sleep when you’re done!

I think I'll go with the black one.

OK I’m better now.  Sorry for the ranting, but I’m a little stressed and sexually frustrated right now.  I may have to break down and buy a vibrator if this continues.

I know, I’m supposed to be the sex-pert here, but really, I never claimed to be an expert at sex.  I just happen to have extensive experience.  Men and sex are two different subjects.  I’m definitely no expert at men.  They way their brains work, the way they think and what makes them do the things they do baffles me on a regular basis.

8 thoughts on “Bad Sex Sucks

  1. No bones about it Mrs.. you say it like it is!

    Sounds to me as if you would be better off without Skaterboi in your life or maybe just as a friend but not as a lover.

    Then go to Ann Summers and buy loads of sex toys

    Have fun whatever you do

    • Thanks Mrs. Patrecia. As you can see by the fact that I’m up at 7 AM I did not sleep well. I slept on the couch because when I went to go to bed at 1 AM (he was asleep or so it seemed) he kept pulling the covers back up so that I couldn’t get in bed. I got pissed off and just went to the couch. Now I’m left wondering what I should do. Even though the couch is actually more comfortable than our bed, I’d rather not sleep on it on a regular basis.

      Thanks for referring me to the Ann Summers website. I hadn’t seen that one before. Looks like I’ll be needing it.

  2. Well when I read that…all I felt was RUN….FAST…

    I am so through with settling in my life, I have done it forever and totally know where you are coming from.

    Good luck with whatever you do decide to do, and keep us updated!!

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