It’s late/early and insomnia strikes again. I’m hungry, horny, stressed, and worried about a whole list of things that came to me as I was in bed trying to go to sleep. The hungry part is about the only thing I can take care of right now. Skaterboi & Biscuit (the new pit-bull puppy) are both sound asleep right now & the house is way too quiet for me. I never thought I would miss the noise of the city garbage trucks and sirens going off at 1:00 am. When I first moved to Brooklyn years ago it was months before I could get to sleep at a decent hour. It was so noisy and I was used to the quiet of the country. It seems like every time I move I have to reacclimate.
Since I’m up I thought I’d share an interesting questionnaire I found on GMPIV.COM. It’s called Family Relationships. As I was in bed I was thinking about my family and adopted little brother in particular and this seems fitting. So here is the questionnaire and my answers (of course I’ll have to leave out real names to protect my anonymity).
Family (or its absence) has a profound impact on what shapes us. This series of questions explores both immediate, extended, and adopted/surrogate family ideas, and how they might impact your persona.
Who were your parents?
They are wonderful people. I’m not sure how else to answer this question.
Were you raised by them?
What is your father’s full name?
Sorry, I can’t tell you that, but I do know it.
What is your mother’s full name?
Sorry, I can’t tell you that, but I do know it.
What did your parents and/or foster parents do for a living?
Mom is a preacher’s wife, housewife, domestic goddess, mother, grandmother, and the sweetest, most beautiful person I know.
Dad is the preacher, community activist, carpenter (yes, like Jesus), law enforcer, father, grandfather, and a stubborn, quiet, charismatic, charming man.
What was their standing in the community?
They have done a lot of good works in their community and many people love them. However, there are always those people who either out of pure ignorance or out of jealousy just refuse to accept others no matter how much good they do or how pure their intentions.
Did your family stay in one area or move around a lot?
We lived in the same town until I was nineteen, then they moved to a neighboring state and I stayed behind. They have lived in the same town now for about sixteen years.
How did you get along with your parents?
Overall I think I have a very good relationship with my parents. We may have our disagreements, but we still love each other and they are very supportive. I know for certain that there’s not much I could do that would make them turn against me. Example: my DWI last year.
How would your parents describe you? Answer this in the voice of your mother, then in your father’s.
Mom: “She’s such a sweet, smart, funny girl. She worries me to death sometimes with the things she does, but she’ll always be my baby girl.”
Dad: “My first born? She drives me crazy and tests my patience sometimes, but she’s a good girl who just needs to get back to God and into church.”
Do you have any siblings?
Yes, I have a younger sister and an adopted little brother.
If so how many and what were their names?
Sorry, I can’t tell you that, but I do know them.
What was your birth position in the family (i.e.last born, only child, etc.)?
I’m the oldest by nine years.
How did you get along with each of your siblings?
My sister and I have a good relationship. Having such a large age gap between us made me feel like more of a second mother to her when she was younger. Now we have developed more of the normal sisterly type of relationship.
My little brother is cute and rambunctious. I love him and am so glad my parents adopted him. He’s always good for a smile and a hug when you need it.
What was your family life like?
It was fairly normal at first. Then when dad became the Preacher it got a little difficult. We went through phases of getting along and not getting along. Now we just agree to disagree on some things.
List all current knowledge of family locations, spouses, children, birth dates, schooling and any important incidents that only you and they might remember.
Yeah, I’m gonna just skip this one. LOL
Are any or all of your family still alive?
Most of my close family is still alive and kicking. I have one grandfather left alive. I really miss my other grandparents. We were very close.
If so, where are they now?
They are spread around, but most are within a day’s driving distance.
Do you stay in touch with them or have you become estranged?
I try to stay in touch with them, but since my grandmothers passed away we don’t get together like we used to which is unfortunate.
Do you love or hate one member of the family in particular?
I don’t hate any of them. Some irritate me sometimes, but I love them all.
Is any member of the family special to you in any way (perhaps, as a confidant, mentor, or arch-rival)?
I have an aunt that is special to me because she is a unique intelligent woman and she is also a writer and I’ve always looked up to her.
Are there any black (or white) sheep in the family (including you)?
I’m definitely the black sheep of the family.
If so, who are they and how did they “gain” the position?
It took me many years of making stupid mistakes and doing things that others deemed crazy to gain the title.
Do you have a notorious or celebrated ancestor?
From what little research I’ve done I found out that my father’s ancestors came to America in the seventeen-hundreds and the first was a minister like my dad. Going back even further I found that I’m of German descent and possibly related to Friedrich “Barbarossa” Stauffer. I guess I now know where the red hair comes from.
If so, what did this person do to become famous or infamous?
Unfortunately he was among Hitler’s favorite historical personalities. (The invasion of the Soviet Union was called “Unternehmen Barbarossa”.)
What do people assume about you once your ancestry is revealed?
I’ve never told anyone about the “Barbarosa” thing before.
Do you try to live up to the reputation of their ancestor, try to live it down, or ignore it?
I don’t think I could or should try & live up to that one.
Have you begun your own family?
If not, do you ever want to have a family of your own someday?
I’m happy with what I have. I can’t have children and doubt I’ll ever adopt.
What type of person would be your ideal mate?
Someone who lets me be me, is not judgmental, is loving, affectionate, kind, blah, blah, blah, all that good stuff.
What would you be willing to do to protect such a person?
Anything within the limits of the law.
Is there anything you wouldn’t do to protect such a person and if so what?
I wouldn’t do anything illegal.
Would anything change your mind on this issue and if so, what?
Nope. I’ve already spent 20 hours in jail. I don’t want to repeat that.